Sunday, February 12, 2012

Beware of Mother Hen

As a woman this is one syndrome I relate to. To me a mother hen syndrome is the constant need to feed food to anyone in sight. Mother hens prepare breakfast and during breakfast think about lunch and then during lunch think about dinner. They not only love to eat but they also love to feed.

There is nothing wrong with mother hens apart from the weight issues they might face OR worse when they force feed a constant dieter like me. When you visit a mother hen, there will be a non stop supply of food and she will force you to eat everything on the plate. Frequent association with mother hen will definitely pronounce doom to your weight loss program.

How to do know if you are a mother hen



1. When you constantly talk about food.

2. You constantly serve your guests with food, forcing them to eat even when they refuse.

3. Thoughts of food takes the center stage.

I once did fall under the mother hen category but I snapped out of it when I figured out that there is more to life than food. Now, I do offer food to my guests but I respect their refusal.

Dealing with a mother hen

There will be a constant reminder of how less you eat and you should leave dieting for at least this one particular party. BUT once back home from Mother hen's house if you feel terribly bloated, want to rush to the loo (to download everything that you ate) then its time to be firm. Mother hens do not take NO easily, they will forcefully keep extra food on your plate and nag you through out the party to eat.

The best way is to stand your grounds and firmly refuse to eat. It will surely break their heart (and probably yours too) to see the food going to the dustbin BUT believe me no one need that much food and once or twice of such crude act will send the signal straight.

Ideally I would like people

1. To respect my decision to eat or not to eat.

2. I am no size zero, neither I am starved nor deprived. I do not need constant advise to eat oil laden food.

3. I fail to see how out side food/oily fried food can be nutritious. If my preferences are home cooked food then it does not mean I am on a strict diet. It just means I have certain food preferences, period.

There will be no dearth of people who will perform the forceful food feeding act. It will be very hard to say NO to them out of love and respect BUT somewhere you will have to draw the line, set your own boundaries and your limits.

At some point of time you will have to say NO and make sure that others respect your NO.

15 comments:

  1. that is a very important aspect of weight loss and conscious eating. Choosing what to put in the mouth is very important for those of us who are on a weight loss/maintenance plan

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  2. Dear Sugar,

    You are right. In the end we are what we eat :).

    Have a great day ahead.

    regards

    Shiva

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  3. Hi Shiva

    How true!I totally relate to the scenario that you have just written.Very well thought and nicely written.

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  4. Dear Kavitha,

    Thanks for liking the post. Someone rightly said, our refusal to eat more should not be associated with its preparation.

    Have a great day ahead.

    regards

    Shiva

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  5. Hi Shiva,

    I have been going through various weight loss blogs to keep me motivated with my weight loss. Yesterday I came across your blog, and I have been hooked. I can relate to every little weight loss challenge you have mentioned in your entries. After going through your blog I'm even more determined to reach my goal weight. Thank you!

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  6. Dear Vani,

    Thanks for liking my blog. I am glad that it motivated you in its own small way.

    All the very best for your weight loss my friend.

    Lots of love

    Shiva

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  7. You are back, you are back, you are back!!!!
    So happy to read your blog again....am gonna write you a looong letter...been a bit busy (moved to Bangalore)...but will write you this week.

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  8. Hi Shiva,
    You're such a strong woman, you're doing so much in order to keep up with eating right. I love your recipes. Keep motivating us with your posts. :)

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  9. Dear Girl,

    Nice to hear from you after a long time. I read that your are enjoying Bangalore, good.

    Waiting to hear from you.

    Lots of love darling

    Shiva

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  10. Dear Dipika,

    Welcome to my blog. Thanks for liking my recipes and thanks a ton for your appreciation.

    Have a great day ahead.

    regards

    Shiva

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  12. I'm very glad that I found ur blog today :-)

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  13. Dear Gavz,

    Welcome to my blog. I too am glad that I found you and your blog.

    Have a great day ahead.

    regards

    Shiva

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  14. Siva you are such an inspiration. I followed you on Indusladies too.

    I like your positive attitude it reminds me my older days.As time has passed ..being busy with family , additional responsibilities, workload had made me so drained that i hardly think positive now a days.

    I used to be a fitness freak.. & a good diet watcher. but now a days i find it difficult to take out time for my self. I have a 5 months old baby. i still followgooddiet habits except some times i crave to have sweets.

    But now its time to do something seriously other than looking for excuses. I am 14kgs overweight than my pre pregnancy weight. none of my old cloths fit me .. that sucks..

    I plan to start my blog too.. i guess by doing so i will be motivated to stay focused with my weightloss plan...

    you will hear from me soon.. take acre dear.. & keep sharing inspirational blogs...

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  15. Dear Swaps,

    Thanks a ton for the appreciation.

    Sometimes when lot of things are going in our life our fitness takes a back seat, it happens to me too. The only way out is to start over again.

    I am glad to know that you will start your own blog and I am waiting to read it.

    As you were a fitness freak before 14kgs weight loss won't be that hard. The only thing that matters right now is to start, once you start no one can stop you.

    All the best my friend.

    Do send me the link of your blog, waiting to read it.

    Lots of love

    regards

    Shiva

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